In the new issue of Just Out, writer Raymond Rendleman profiles the efforts of Bradley Angle House – and specifically, staffer Lupita Mendez – to reach out to LGBTQ survivors of domestic violence.

If you’re not sure if you might be experiencing intimate partner violence, take a look at the following checklist – provided by Bradley Angle and Mendez – for warning signs present in many abusive relationships. And if you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call the 24-hour crisis line at 503-281-2442.

Does your partner:
□    Embarrass, ridicule or humiliate you?
□    Call you names?
□    Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions?
□    Use intimidation or threats of violence to gain compliance?
□    Treat you roughly—push, grab, slap, punch, strangle, hit, pinch, bite—or restrain you physically?
□    Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you?
□    Blame you or others for how she/he/ze feels or acts?
□    Pressure you sexually for things you’re not ready for?
□    Prevent you from doing things you want, like talking to or seeing your friends and family?
□    Threaten to hurt or take away your children or pets?

More questions, after the jump:

Does your partner:
□    Get unreasonably jealous or accuse you of “cheating” when you spend time with friends or don’t answer the phone?
□    Control your access to money or other shared resources?
□    Put down your abilities as a lover, partner, parent, or friend?
□    Threaten to “out” you at work or to your family/friends that you are not out to?
□    Tell you to do things, rather than asking, or make decisions for the two of you without your input?
□    Ignore or trivialize your feelings or refuse to give you the chance to express them?
□    Deny or “forget about” times they have abused you in the past?

Do you:
□    Feel that something is wrong with your relationship, but you don’t know how to describe it?
□    Feel that your partner controls your life?
□    Feel that your partner does not value your thoughts or feelings?
□    Feel that you cannot do anything right in your partner’s eyes?
□    Get mixed messages, such as the reason you are abused is because s/he loves you?
□    Have to account for every moment of your time?
□    Get told that no one else would want you, or that you are lucky your partner takes care of you?

Again, if you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call the 24-hour crisis line at 503-281-2442.